The funny thing about the human being is that if they really really want something they will go after it and get it.
I don’t care who you are it is true, whether it is positive (say sporting or business success) or negative (a junkie in need of another fix) if the desire is great enough we move heaven and earth.
So how come we sometime have difficulty in motivating ourselves to get something we know we want? The answer is we just don’t want it enough!
So do we just give up? Not on my watch matey!
There are some very simple and very easy techniques that can be used to make that goal more compelling.
Firstly, if you have read any of this blog before you will know that beliefs play a huge part in human behaviour.
So I would say choose your belief and ‘act as if’.
To expand on that a bit if I tell my self I can’t do something my body acts to fulfil that belief. I will give up easily as I have already accepted I won’t succeed. Which, surprise surprise is why people with a can do attitude tend to succeed in life.
So if you want to be leaner, tell yourself you are going to be leaner!
If you want to succeed at least give yourself the chance by telling yourself you are going to succeed. Then act ‘as if’ you are going to succeed. It may feel a bit strange at first (a little unnatural and you may have doubts, however believe me the more you tell yourself and the more you act as if the more your body will ‘somatise’ that belief and take it on board.
Now get clear on your objectives. Now once again regular readers will know I am not a great one for obsessing about scales. My guess is that what virtually everyone trying to lose weight wants is not to lose weight as such, but to be leaner/fitter/healthier/happier. Am I right?
So if those are your objectives be clear on them!
We all make sense of the world through our five senses (and for the purpose of this next section we are going to deal with just three) Visual, Auditory and Kinaesthetic (feeling). We represent the world to our brain through these sense. Without going into too much detail (I got told off for that the other day!) different people prefer to use these senses in different proportions.
It will soon become clear to you which is your preferred system when we get on the next sep of the exercise.
So having thought about your objective, what would it be like when you achieve that goal? Take a moment to imagine, what you will look like, what you will hear others say or what you will say to yourself, and imagine how you will feel!
NOW TURN UP THE IMAGINATION!
If you are visualising how you will look make the picture bigger, make it brighter and make sure it is in colour!
If you are hearing what people are saying or you are congratulating yourself, put some more enthusiasm in that voice even add some cheering and clapping to the sound track!
If you are imagining how you will feel when you reach your objectives, intensify that feeling really ramp it up! Notice where it is in your body and what the nature of that feeling is.
If there is any negative self talk going on about ‘well chances are I will never get there’ ignore it. This is imagining you have. You can imagine whatever you like!
The key is in intensifying whatever you imagine to the point where it becomes compelling and something you can go back to at any time if your resolve starts to weaken.
New Year post by friend & colleage Maggie Ayre
6 years ago